It may sound ridiculous to be told that you are unhappy in life because you have decided to be so. No matter how unthinkable this sounds, that is the reality of life.
Life has its own problems and accidents which we do not have any control over. The results of these events can be exceptionally depressing and will dwell with us for as long as well allow it.
What we cannot control are the uncertain happenings of life-be it positive or negative. However, we have the ability to determine how long the aftermath dwells and sadden our entire existence.
Your happiness in life is entrusted into your own hands. People will behave as they prefer towards you. People and things will continue to disappoint you. The pains of your struggles together with the actions and omissions of others will pierce deep into your heart, but that is as far as it can get.
For these things to undermine your total existence and shadow your happiness, you have to allow them to take over your strength and time.
A happy person in life is the individual who is able to control how long he allows the misfortunes of life to live with him. Anytime such a person is hit by the storm of pain and sorrow, he bounces back quickly to look for the little opportunities scattered in close proximity by the storm.
Not far from every catastrophe lies an opportunity. It takes only the unfettered spirit to go searching for these real opportunities.
Look for the little diamonds the storm of pain brings and take full control of how long you allow the pain to stay with you.
If your happiness and wellbeing are determined by the time you allocate to pain, then you are unhappy because you want to be so by allocating more than enough time to the issues making you sad. Shake them off and let the next minute give you a new hope and opportunity.
Remember you cannot wholly control the events of life; neither can you fully control how people will relate to you. But what you can totally control is how much these things will affect your existence.
Take control of the time you allocate to negative events in your life and you will realize that, the little time you give to these events, the happier you will become as a person.
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