Life is a crazy difficult journey made worse by a deeply held widespread misconception to be the best at any point in time—which puts us under worthless stress and unending pressure.
Strangely, most of us confuse ‘Being the Best’ with ‘Doing Our Best’—with the latter being what life should really be about.
We desire to ‘Be the Best’ in whatever we do, competing with almost every one within our reach: even when we may not have what it takes to be the best, we still think we ought to be the best.
The two phrases: ‘Being the Best’ and ‘Doing Your Best’ may seem as though they have the same meaning or the first may come off as more desirable but it’s not. Perhaps you are asking, don’t you want to be the best if you are going to give out your best?
I have always given out my best in everything—and I have managed to always sit in the room as the Best or with the Best but I have never aspired or set off to become the Best in anything.
Conditioning your mind to be the Best can sometimes turn you into a convenient mediocre individual, especially when you are surrounded by the worst. In such situations, the little you do would put you up there as the Best but in reality, you’ve performed far below your Best.
During my early educational days to college level, my mother cared less about whether I was the Best student in class or the second Best. In fact, I was always the Best or the second Best but she never really cared as other parents did—rather, she made sure I was doing my Best and not just finding ways to be the Best in my class.
I have watched 20 students take an examination with almost half of them failing and the other half achieving something a little above 50 percent. The top child had 56 percent—and though the student was the Best in that examination, his best was really not much. And knowing the student, he did not actually do his best. Read more