CHRIS-VINCENT Writes: How I Became Less of An IDIOT Which Helped Cut Down My Discontentment

Chris-Vincent Agyapong Febiri

Yesterday, I watched a documentary on Netflix titled Minimalism which looked at how a growing number of people in America have decided to break away from the ‘American dream’ which largely equates success to possessions—without any real evaluation of what really makes an individual happy. Many of the people in the documentary had left their 6 figure paying jobs which made them miserable to live the ‘minimalist lifestyle’–having found content in that.

Personally, I’ve been on a slow journey to becoming a full blown minimalist—some friends think I am already there but I believe I can do more when it comes to minimising how much I have and the sort of importance I place on materialistic possessions.

Currently, I own just two pairs of  Topman jeans (I bought two of the same kind so you cannot even see the difference), about 15 white-long sleeve shirts, a few T-shirts and about 5 coloured long-sleeve shirts. I have about 3 pairs of shoes and a lot of boxer shorts.

I mean, the above is my entire wardrobe—if you add my 3 blazers and 3 suits. Even this, I feel they are too many for one person and I will use the next few weeks to get rid of as many as possible. I want to be able to live on 33 items all together.

A few years ago, I used to be a complete IDIO, just like many people who harbour an unquenchable desire to buy and own more things—with the market continuously ensuring that they are never satisfied with what they already have.

It’s everywhere around us in a form of advertisement: you may have the latest iPhone but within 6 months, another will be on the market, making yours old. As human beings, we have a sickening desire for goods and services—and this insatiable desire is what’s being exploited by the markets around us, which has given birth to consumerism.

For many years, we’ve equated human success and happiness to material things when it’s clear around us that, this is not true and a person’s happiness level does not increase proportionately with an increase in money or material things. Read more

Why Limit Yourself With Assumptions?

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Depending on how deep and far your assumptions go, they can be of great benefit to your life and can also become a strong bulwark between you and the endless possibilities life has to offer.

Therefore, challenging yourself to look beyond your assumptions and to find the realities which exist puts you right in the center of life: the truth.

Because many of us are scared to the face the truth, we prefer to live in a room of assumptions—mostly mischievous assumptions.

When you spend too much of your time assuming what things are, would be or could have been, you rob yourself of the reality—what things really are, what they were and the endless possibilities of the future being different from anything you can assume.

It’s when you embrace the reality of things that you can find within them the lessons, the hidden beauty, the certainty and the inconsistencies to be able to sharp the future ahead of you.

Of course life offers enough experience which can be put into good use in a way of assumptions but what’s the good in assuming when you could verify— find out the reality? Read more

It’s Not About ‘Being the Best’ But ‘Doing Your Best’

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Life is a crazy difficult journey made worse by a deeply held widespread misconception to be the best at any point in time—which puts us under worthless stress and unending pressure.

Strangely, most of us confuse ‘Being the Best’ with ‘Doing Our Best’—with the latter being what life should really be about.

We desire to ‘Be the Best’ in whatever we do, competing with almost every one within our reach: even when we may not have what it takes to be the best, we still think we ought to be the best.

The two phrases: ‘Being the Best’ and ‘Doing Your Best’ may seem as though they have the same meaning or the first may come off as more desirable but it’s not. Perhaps you are asking, don’t you want to be the best if you are going to give out your best?

I have always given out my best in everything—and I have managed to always sit in the room as the Best or with the Best but I have never aspired or set off to become the Best in anything.

Conditioning your mind to be the Best can sometimes turn you into a convenient mediocre individual, especially when you are surrounded by the worst. In such situations, the little you do would put you up there as the Best but in reality, you’ve performed far below your Best.

During my early educational days to college level, my mother cared less about whether I was the Best student in class or the second Best. In fact, I was always the Best or the second Best but she never really cared as other parents did—rather, she made sure I was doing my Best and not just finding ways to be the Best in my class.

I have watched 20 students take an examination with almost half of them failing and the other half achieving something a little above 50 percent. The top child had 56 percent—and though the student was the Best in that examination, his best was really not much. And knowing the student, he did not actually do his best. Read more

You Are A Product of Your Faults | It’s Time to Get ‘You’ Fixed

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The truth is hard to take and one of the most difficult truths out there is to accept that you are a product of your own faults.

Many of us look at ourselves in the mirror with unsatisfactory remarks—we are not where we want to be or we’ve put on a lot of weight. Our financial circumstance has not improved and our spiritual growth has halted; who is the cause of all these or any of the hovering problems?

Instead of us coming to terms with the fact that we are a product of our own faults, we quickly look around us to find where we can comfortably lodge the shame and problem.

A friend of mine blames his weight gain on the fact that there are two Burger King Restaurants near his house—and not that out of his own choice and fault, he walks in there each day to make a purchase.

My cousin thinks she is broke because there are no jobs out there for her—and not that, she has failed to re-train to be able to fit into the available jobs or create her own job… Read more

What Bobbi Kristina’s Death Reminds Me About Life…

Bobbi Kristina Brown, daughter of the late singer Whitney Houston, poses at the premiere of "Sparkle" in Hollywood, California, in this file photo taken August 16, 2012. Brown, daughter of late pop star Whitney Houston and of Bobby Brown, was rushed to the hospital after she was found unresponsive in the bathtub of her home in Roswell, Georgia, CNN reported on Saturday, citing police.   REUTERS/Fred Prouser/Files   (UNITED STATES - Tags: ENTERTAINMENT)

Yesterday, Bobbi Kristina (daughter of Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown) finally died, aged 22—-and today, I want you to look at life from a different perspective with this in mind.

The rich will die, the poor will die, those we love will die and those we loathe will also die—life is a big disappointment but hidden in this big mess is one thing; ability to forgive, reform, give people as many chances as possible and help them become better persons.

All the ego, sense of political correctness, desire to make a point, not bending our own principles even if doing so will give another a second or fifth chance at doing what is right may make us feel instantly gratified or better today—but the question is; is it really worth it?

At the end of it all, everyone will go down the ground and the sole thing we will take with us is memories.

For this reason, I make creating experiences—even if sometimes it’s messed up ones my priority in life.  Life is one hell of a thorny journey and though the day is unknown to us, it will eventually come when we will also die.

So now that you are alive and have the chance to make people smile, make them better and offer them the underserving ‘another’ chance at whatever they’ve brutally failed, do it—I know for sure Bobbi Kristina would have wanted another chance to make things right. Read more

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